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Should Your Aging Parent Move in With You?

Posted by Frank Esterle on Fri, Apr 29, 2011

What do you do when you’ve come to the difficult realization thatmoving aging parent home
your aging parent can no longer live safely alone in their home? Some adult children decide to move their elderly loved one into their own home.  Making the decision to move your parent into your home isn’t always as straightforward as it would seem. There are a number of issues to consider:


  • Will my aging parent be open to the idea of moving into my home?
  • How will my family feel about moving my mother into our home and how will it impact their daily lives?
  • How will I seek respite?
  • What are my care limits?
  • Will my siblings accept the idea and will they offer to help?
  • How will this affect my marriage? 
  • How will I seek personal time?


  • If my parent requires care during the day, how will it be provided?
  • How will I juggle my personal and professional responsibilities? 
  • Will I have time for myself? For my spouse? For my children?


  • What will the financial arrangement be? Will I charge rent? 
  • Will I be responsible for my parent’s expenses? 
  • Will my siblings offer financial assistance?
  • Will my work situation have to change, and if so, how will it affect expenses?

Modifying Your Home:

  • Where will my parent sleep? Must I convert a room or build an addition?
  • What assistive devices will I need? Will I need to add a full bathroom to the first floor?
  • Will my parent’s personal habits be a problem for me or my family? (smoking, drinking, schedule, etc.)
  • Does my parent have a pet that will move in as well?
  • Do I have room for all of my parent’s belongings?

Personal Care:

  • Do I know what to expect as my parent ages and requires more time and assistance?
  • How comfortable am I with personal care? 
  • How is my health and will I make time to focus on myself?
  • Am I open to respite care and/or having additional help come into the home?

Each family situation is unique. If you are deciding to move your aging parent into your home, take some time to include your family in the decision making process. If every member of the family is on board, the transition should be smoother. Remember, caregivers need breaks from time to time. Don’t hesitate to ask for help and respite. 

If you are seeking respite, click HERE to learn how Home Helpers can help you and your loved one. 

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